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Mentee Do's and Don'ts

The following are some things that the mentee should DO in the mentoring relationship:


  • Review your Mentor's Biographical Sketch to learn more about his/her interests and background.
  • Send your Biographical Sketch to your mentor so that he/she can learn more about your interests and background.
  • Establish open and honest communication and a forum for idea exchange. Maintaining confidentiality between the mentor and mentee is essential. If something concerning the mentor or mentee needs to be discussed with the others, it should first be discussed within the mentoring relationship.
  • Understand what you want from the mentoring relationship and communicate your goals and aspirations to your mentor. Balance personal and professional relationship with your mentor.
  • Understand what you have to give, as well as receive, from the relationship.
  • Act on your mentor's advice when you feel it is applicable to your situation. Follow up with resources/references that your mentor gives you to find answers or needed information.
  • Keep all scheduled appointments with your mentor and display professional behavior and dress, as appropriate.
  • Be aware that the Extension agent is a professional - 24 hours a day, 7 days a week.
  • Arrange frequent contacts with your mentor through telephone, email, face-to-face, etc.
  • Be flexible on meeting times and places.
  • Be realistic and maintain a positive attitude.
  • Be ambitious and enthusiastic.


The following are some things mentees should NOT DO in the mentoring relationship:


  • Ask for advice on everything. Have a purpose in each request.
  • Ask you mentor to act in your place or tell you precisely what to do.
  • Rely on your mentor to give or seek answers to all of your questions/requests.
  • Complain about other people or missed opportunities in an unprofessional manner.
  • Commit yourself to obligations you cannot keep.
  • Cancel meetings/visits with your mentor at the last minute.

*Adapted from Texas Agricultural Extension Service Survival Guide for Mentor and Mentee

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